cia mossad underpants bomber -- part 7 to 12 (final)

of course imagine a christian and muslim leader had used the christmas celebrations to deliver a message of peace and understanding. Very convenient that the shoebomber, oops, underpants suicide bomber from italy/nigeria/england was ready to rock and roll. US drone attacks on Pakistani school boys vanished from the headlines rightaway. cui bono!


===== part 7 of 12 =======

> Islam in Egypt

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 26 2005, 06:00 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum I found an interesting article about Islam in Egypt titles 'Air-conditioned Islam' Here is the link for those who want to read it; http://www.islamonline.net/English/artcult...article04.shtml By the way, i've been hearing lately a lot about Amr Khaled. Can someone please tell me more about him. I've seen him on TV several times, but he speaks in Arabic. Ma'assalam
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Football

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 26 2005, 05:48 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum Ok for a start, i have to admit, POA and crystal eyes, you guys got me. .It's like a 2 on 1 situation and unfortunately i'm the only guy who supports Liverpool at the moment. No one is coming to my defense, to try and open your eyes to see the beauty of being an Anfield faithful. Too bad I thinbk it's ok for girls to play football amongst themselves. I think it;s not ok though when guys are watching them play. Flutterby, incase you start watching football, don't listen to POA and crystal eyes, they will guide you to strange football club. Watch and support Liverpool and come have a go at POA and Crystal eyes (your name is long, i'll start using...CE...na...CrE...na...C Y... yeah!!! , that's it) POA, b4 the Liverpool-Bayer game, people said no chance for LIv. Then now, it's they are not asb tough as Milan... Anyway let's all join forces behind Liverpool against chelski . Ma'assalam
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Gets Boring Huh

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 25 2005, 04:05 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum Forum getting boring...I think its to do with expectations people have for the forum and how may or not, find out later how the forum really is. For me i expected to find friends which hasn't really been that succesful. Nevertheless i still enjoy visiting the forum. What makes it boaring for me is not being able to post, as sometimes my internet connection is a bit messed up. But i think there is so much to do in the forum. Like for me there are so many other sections i would want to read, post and participate in, but no time. The early pahses for newbies i think involves; sticking to IF a lot at beginning and sacrificing time not usually spent online in IF, but later on members get less carried away and try to do things as they used to on normal daily basis. Ma'assalam
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Football

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 24 2005, 09:27 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum Hello guys!!! I hope you didn't miss me too much (i bet crystal eyez did). What was the score, Liverpool- Leveurkusen? Can somebody please shout it out from where they are? .The only English team that won. Who are the big boys now. Whose the daddy. Bayern Blitz pass Arsenal .Man U... a lot of running but poor finishing, lot of enthusiasm and energy but no result. I think fergie shopuld have left Ronaldo on. Ruud boy was terrible and useless. What was fergie thinking man? Crystal eyes you play football? Don't worry you and ur cousin can 't do better than Kolo Toure(Did you see Toures pass to Pizarro? He had one assist and one goal that game. Shall we give him man of the match ) . If you can then i really fear for Arsenal. Juve's game was boaring man. Deus are u an Anfield Faithful? Chelski, Bacra... I want chelski to win. I hope they give it to Barca at stamford bridge. Cant think of more to say so...till next time insha Allah Ma'assalam
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Super Model Reverts To Islam!

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 24 2005, 08:55 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum Allahu Akbar. Wonderful story. Indeed Islam is full of such stories. May Allah reward the sister and others taht helped in showing the revert the way and straight path. The prophet (s) showed so many people the way and straight path just by his actions and good character. This is what the sister who picked up the papers did, show good character. Actions speak more than words. Ma'assalam
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Football

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 21 2005, 08:46 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(Rahim @ Feb 21 2005, 08:14 PM) salaam Sister, good explanation, thanks Assalamu Alaykum What's good though with watching skills, skills that aren't beneficial outside the football pitch for anybody??? Ma'assalam
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Football

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 21 2005, 07:59 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, You guys made me laugh , the way you were concerned about watching football. Chelski lost to Newcatsle!!! Oh, i felt pity for mourinho. Check this link of mourinho's pic after the game; http://soccernet.espn.go.com/team?id=363&cc=3888 Liverpool have serious injury problems. Where are my co-Liverpool supporters??? I don't want to be undersiege!!! Ma'assalam
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Remembering What You Have Memorised

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 21 2005, 07:46 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum ^^^Great quote brother. i don't think i ever heard that. Jazakallahu bikhair. Ma'assalam
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> Islam in Egypt

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 21 2005, 07:20 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Interesting discussion about egypt. If anyI visited Egypt roughly 2 years ago. It was a lovely trip! advice for anyone visiting egypt, don't use the local camels to go the pyramid!!! Can you imagine, they priced the trip to the pyramid at about 500 Egyptian pounds- long tour, 350 medium tour and about 200 short tour. They even said out of 'kindness' they will take us on a medium tour for the price of short. The funny thing is, from the location we set off with the camels, we could see the pyramid, but they took we went on camel and horse back into the desert, then back near the set off location to the pyramids. Of course they knew we will be tired and thirsty on the way, so they took care of that by making us buy Turbans and cold drinks on the way. It's not like we had a choice!!! it was blazing hot and from nowhere, one will be handed a chilling coke bottle. Then by the time we arrived to the pyramids, the sphinx, they knew we will be too exhausted and hence they will not need to give us a tour kind of talk!!! We spent hours to the pyramid, then like magic on the way back, we were back in the location we set off in just a few minutes! B4 all that, our tour guide took us to a so called museum, 'The papyrus..' something. We went in, and they allowed us to go in for 'free' as they said. I was surprised how small the museum was, with no mummies or anything like that, but full of papyrus portraits. they even offered us 'free drinks' and gave us a short history about the 'museum and papyru'. Then they went straight to business and said, now which papyrus portraits are you buying. It was a shop not a museum after all!!! we were expected to buy atleast something for their 'hospitality'. Then our tour guide said he would take us to the 'Grand Bazaar'. He took us to a local corner shop, and we only realised how fixed the prices were when we later went to a market. What about the great stuff in Egypt??? Hmm, Sheraton Cairo we lodged in was great!!! The food, espcially the breakfast and the morrocan restaurant. The malls were not bad, considering we were in Africa!!!Ice skating and the nile cruise were great. Visit to Al-Azhar was great too. Actually we went to Egypt bcos i planned to go to school there. I badly wanted to learn arabic (and still badly want to learn it) so i decided to school in Egypt. I went over to American University cairo, but didn't want to stay there. I went to Al-azhar see if i can get to study arabic for a year, then buzz off. We got to meet the Big Sheikh of al-azhar, and he said i could come on scholarship. We met a guy who was suppose to assist me back in me homecountry, nut when we went back he was never there!!! so the arrangements looked dodgy, and now here i am, in a pre-university course- The International Baccaulareate (IB). I don't plan to go to study in egypt anymore, but insha Allah i plan to study arabic by the side to whichever university i go. Hope you enjoyed the story of me trip to Egypt!!! Ma'assalam
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Help Me

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 21 2005, 04:59 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(Batoota @ Feb 21 2005, 02:04 PM) Wouldn't that make her also your aunt? Anyways, I was going to say the same as cool angel. The least that I can offer is dua! I will insha Allah make dua for you . Assalamu alaykum, Yup, we spotted the same thing, but i just saw yours after me post Ma'assalam
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Help Me

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 21 2005, 04:42 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum May Allah help you through what your going. Ameen Your auntie's sister, isn't she also your auntie? please clarify. If she's your auntie, then i don't think marriage btwn you and her is permissible due to the blood relation. If she is not your mahrem , and it is permissible to marry her, then i don't think ther's nothing wrong with that. Remember our beloved prophet (s) was married to his first wife, Khadija while she was 15 years older than him!!! Unfortunately though, if someone else has prposed to her, then you can't propose as the prophet (s) forbade that, unless you get permission from the person who proposed first. If she is no more engaged then you can propose islamically via a walee. Explain to your parents that your marriage to her is accepted in Islam and so on. Hope this helps. Tell us more so we can help you further insha Allah Ma'assalam
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I Think The Devils Gotten Into Me

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 21 2005, 04:20 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum, May Allah help yoou through. Ameen What you need i think is someone to talk to. Is there an islamic center nearby you could go to? there could be people there you can talk to. If you can't find someone to talk to, come over to IF. Insha Allah i'll be able to find someone that will talk with you insha Allah (i cant see your gender sign, so i'll find you a female if your female, a male if your male). Ma'assalam
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A Muslim Who Cant Stop Drinking

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 21 2005, 04:17 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(Student @ Feb 21 2005, 11:10 AM) I dont know who is better .........Mother Teresa or Sunshinez... Assalamu Alaykum You must be joking brother!!! How can you compare??? Sister Sunshinez is way better than mother Theresa. Let me think of a comparison...Sunshinez is the shining sun while Mother Theresa is a lamp on the street of india!!! Okay, in truth, Sunshinez is way better than mother Theresa because Sunshinez is a muslim alhamdulillah and may Allah reward her abundantly in this life and the next, while mother Theresa, as far as i know she had no religion and Allahh says in the quran the good deeds of those who dont believe is like a mirage, their good deeds are lost!!! Allah knows best Ma'assalam
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Poll: Get Married Now?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 21 2005, 12:28 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum Crystal eye's, please don't get cross when you read me post? PLease please please... Ma'assalam
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Poll: Get Married Now?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 21 2005, 12:19 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(Crystal Eyes @ Feb 20 2005, 07:25 PM) wa Alaykum salam No Gender: check the icon Age: embarrassed to say Reasons: I donأ¢â‚¬â„¢t think I could fulfill my duty as a أ¢â‚¬ثœwifeأ¢â‚¬â„¢ Any other relevant comment: say أ¢â‚¬ثœcheeseأ¢â‚¬â„¢ Assalamu Alaykum Hey guys, just wanted to say, if you wanna know Crystal eyes' age, find out Arsene Wenger's age. That might give you a clue. Ma'assalam
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Football

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 21 2005, 12:18 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum Rahim, great stuff you put up there, it really cheered me up. But hey Milan better watch out for Liverpool, aight. Let me choose my funniest joke out of your bunch... "What makes this game so delightful is that when both teams get the ball they are attacking their opponents goal." (JIMMY HILL) The guys making these comments got me . Some of them are blatantly obvious, some ironically contradicting and some, way off the mark. BTW, i made a mistake, It's Bayern that should make crystal eyes turn to red swollen eyes . But as for the other German team going to anfield... Ma'assalam
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Ewwwwww We Got Robbed

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 21 2005, 12:03 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum, May Allah compensate you with what is better, protect you and all other muslims from future events like this. Ameen. From where i come from, people get robbed by fellas with guns. Yours seems to be a theft to me, since the thieves sneaked in and stole the things. Ma'assalam
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Poll: Get Married Now?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 21 2005, 11:58 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum Yes: As many other's i would like to at the next opportunity, but there's a lot to overcome, parents concerned, finding the partner, arranging the marriage... Age: 18 Gender: Would you believe me if i say Female?(LOL)- just look at me info!!! Or has any one ever heard a female called Umar-Farouk? Reasons: The prophet (s) there would be fitna if young people stay unmarried, especially when opportunities come and aren't taken seriouly- Fitna is what we're seeing today!!! And other obvious religious reasons- fulfulling half the dean.... But it's a jihad to hold out b4 getting married when the time comes, so insha Allah if that, i'll just keep on striving in me jihad till the time comes. Some people mentioned they are too young to look after their partners- The partner also looks after you too. And some people say i'm not yet responsible- With the marriage comes the responsibility. No one will ever be responsible enough if they never take up responsible positions, i think. The prophet's marriages were just amazing. His first wife was 15 years older than him!!! Him a guy from a noble background, and an Arab at that time when no Islam, when Men mistreated women and so on... yet he scapped convention, got married to Khadija who had 3 previous husbands (the arabs at that time really looked down on widowed or divorced women). Result= Ideal marriage!!! As for me, insha Allah i will always be ready to fight conventions for islamic reasons. Besides, alhamdulillah my parents are very well off to help me out very well if i were to get married. And i'll do anything to get my marriage on track as soon as i find a suitable partner, even if its resettling from me home country. Ma'assalam
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I Think I Feel Lonely

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 20 2005, 09:16 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(sunshinez @ Feb 20 2005, 05:34 PM) lolz at Batoota- ok if you say so - we wont ask you further to elaborate on fantasies. Assalamu Alaykum, 'lolz' 'sunshinez' - what's up with the Z's at the end of words??? (Btw does anyone know a website where i can get cool muslim hero pictures for me icon???) Ma'assalam
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Profile

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 20 2005, 09:09 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(property_of_allah @ Feb 9 2005, 06:39 PM) asslamualaikum Is it pissible to check how many times your profile has bene clicked on? I just think it would be interesting to know, no specific reason in particular walaikumsalam Assalamu Alaykum For 'no specific reason in particular' - there must be a reason. You want to know know who likes ManU and clicks to see your profile? I think it should be confidential. It's not a popularity contest or anything like that in IF. It might lead to problems, like hey, why did this guy checkm my profile so many times and stuff like that. Anyway, that's what me thinks Ma'assalam
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...Some guy at my skool

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 20 2005, 08:50 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Allaykum Just made a mistake in the post b4 this. Let me just correct it straight away. 'May Allah reward you brother Muhammad Na'eem and Madina for your efforts.Ameen' Ma'assalam
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...Some guy at my skool

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 20 2005, 08:32 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(Mohammad ibn Naeem @ Feb 6 2005, 03:50 AM) seriously if those people say any thing about Abdul A'had converting is going to get the life beaten out of them Assalamu Alaykum So you going to beat the guys who talk and get in trouble :laugh: , jihad spirit!!! May Allah guide the guy to the straight path and may he reward you for our efforts. Ameen. You live in Toronto... You could take the guy to the islamic institute of Toronto for help. Ma'assalam
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Football

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 20 2005, 08:27 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Crystal Eyes- Calm down, calm down. Take it easy on me. I bet i could make you cry if i went on and on about Arsenal. But nah. I'll just leave your crystal eyes to shine for the moment until Bayer Leverkeusen make you cry!!!cry Juventus, how did they allow Milan to get even with them in Serie A??? Nedved out? Man, the last time he was out, you lost in the finals. I will like Juve to thrash real though, i enjoy watching the GalactiCas fall. The Smith story... what a pity. In truth, i can expect even a Liverpool or ManU player to act in a similar anti-islamic fashion. I heard Beckam also recently made anti-islamic remarks after a Real madrid game was postponed due to bomb threats at the Bernebeu. To be honest football and Islam... they don't blend very well. It's a pity. This reminds me to give my Footbal and Islam talk that i was supposed to give the first day i saw this topic. Let me see... maybe what i'll do is put a date to do that insha Allah. Cheers Ma'assalam
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...sigh...

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 20 2005, 08:05 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum May Allah help you thbrough all your going through. Wanted to ask, how do youm know you have a jinn? Usually the believe you have a jinn can make one sit down and do nothing and attribute all their problems to the jinn. It is tue that the jinn exist as they are mentioned in the quran, but realise that a jinn can only do to you what Allah wills it to do. Recite surat Baqarah, it protecxts against all sought of evils like magic and jinn. Recite Ayatul Kursiyyu, that is surah 2 (Baqarah) ayat 255 everyday. It is like a shield and protection. Also recite 3 times eachsurat Nas, falaq and Ikhlas, that is surat 114, 113 and 112. There is none like them as the prophet (s) said. I'm happy to hear your trying hard to be a good muslim, and this has made you lonely and lose friends. That was my problem too when i came to IF. What you need is someone to talk to right? but its hard to dind one. You can try islamic centers, masjid... You can contact me MSN if you want to talk as your feeling lonely by adding me contact umarm21[at]hotmail.com. You can hang around in the forums in IF, they could be very beneficial and helpful. About the problems with your family, i advise you to stay patient and stick to Islam. Contact professional muslim counsellors at www.islamonline.net (cyber counselling section) If you have any queries, just contact me. I hope i can be of any help. Hope all goes well with you. Tell us how it goes with you as well. Ma'assalam
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I Think I Feel Lonely

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 20 2005, 07:38 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum Fantasy and reality... Sunshinez i don't know about you but for me, , i believe insha Allah i will realise my goals and dreams, by the power and might of Allah, out of his mercy, if it is best. I agree there is no point of thinking about something if there's no chance of realising. You know the hadith that the prophet (s) said Allah said' I am as my slave thinks i am. I can do for him what my slave believes i can do for him/her.' I believe Allah can enable me to realise my dreams. So everything is under his control and hasbunallahu wan'imal wakeel(He is the best disposer of all affairs). You just pray for me Okay. Pray for me hard. Thanks sister Batoota. You also pray for me hard. And to your question, i'll leave you to answer that. i think you know the answer. Thanks sisters Ma'assalam
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===8 of 12 ===

Best Food For Salah

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 20 2005, 07:11 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(Rahim @ Feb 19 2005, 10:02 PM) Salaam Here you go.... Bukhari: Volume 1, Book 4, Number 139: Narrated 'Abbas bin Tamim: My uncle asked Allah's Apostle about a person who imagined to have passed wind during the prayer. Allah' Apostle replied: "He should not leave his prayers unless he hears sound or smells something." ws Assalamu Alaykum Nice one bro, how did you get the source so quickly and efficiently? Ma'assalam
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When Friends Hurt Each Other

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 20 2005, 06:58 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, I answered sisQamr's question, but for some reason it didnt appear on the page . Oh yeah, i was wrong about the khutba stuff, i got mixed up with another khutba in the sermon forum i guess. Thanks for pointing it out to me in an ironic way. Oh, don't change the Danish name, ther's probably a reason why you chose that name which you didn't say. Just add to your info, you live in the UK. Or is it that your danish and live in the UK? Ma'assalam
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Last Year In Grade 12

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 20 2005, 04:46 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, I can imagine how you feel, how the teacher might think in a certain way about you bcos you sak question while others have gotten it or pretend to have gotten it. Ya that's what it is, many pretend they get things in class so that they don't look stupid, nut the reports, trsts and exams show the true colours. So you who is bothered i imagine get much higher marks than those who aren't bothered. It's a pity though that some teacher's don't welcome questions. They might answer sometimes but the expression on their face or body language can tell you otherwise. so as you have been told already. forget the teacher's aren't doing what their suppose to do and ask them whatever you like. If they don't satisfy you, tell them your not satisfied with the way the answer your questions. If still, report to prefect council, or your form tutor or any other authority that can do something about it. Hope this helps Ma'assalam
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I Think I Feel Lonely

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 20 2005, 04:16 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Alright, i wont go into too much details about me fantasy, but basically they are jihad fantisies. I imagine how the great jihad will take place, how the muslims will win insha Allah and rule the whole world, and establish the greatest empire once again!!! So usually my fatasies are about islamic stuff. The bad part of it is sometimes the fantasies are a bit worldly rather than concentrating in the hereafter. Do i need to clarify anything further??? Ma'assalam :biggrin:
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I Think I Feel Lonely

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 20 2005, 04:06 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(Batoota @ Feb 20 2005, 03:56 PM) actually i have a fantasy world too............i guess...but i'm not gonna try to explain! just wanted to let brother farouk to know that its okay! in case he was feeling a bit Assalamu Alaykum Thanks sis Batoota. Actually sis, i was thinking its and :biggrin: Ok. i'll post about me fantasy, let's hear yours too :laugh: Ma'assalam
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I Think I Feel Lonely

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 20 2005, 03:04 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(sunshinez @ Feb 20 2005, 10:33 AM) yes for agreeing Bro Lat :smile: world for fantasies sometimes can hurt you badly. and im talking from expereince bro so take it from me - dont worry - not major fantasies :tongue: Assalamu Alaykum I had a feeling you guys will read into my fantasy world :biggrin: . Thnaks for caring. I got to move now though, so insha Allah i'll pop up and tell you about it and what i mean later. Ma'assalam
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Poll: .........

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 19 2005, 09:25 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Interesting poll. I enjoy eating on the floor and table as well. It also depends on the setting. It wont be confortable eating on the floor if the space wasn't meant for that. But like the space Sunshinez creates specially for eating, that will be great i imagine. It is also the same eating on a table not meant for eating, terrible infact. Nevertheless i'm in a boarding school and its not suitable for me to sit on the floor with no carpets or anything like that. I imagine blocking the way, sitting on the floor with my legs folded1 D-Ziner, good point about how when visitors come along, everyone eats on the dining table. It's not only eating, there are so many other things that people do for the sake of visitors, even though it might not be haram, sunnah ways are usually scrapped away for their sake. Ma'assalam
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Break This Cycle

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 19 2005, 09:09 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum I think Rahim has provided you with sufficient information you need. So i'll just pray for you. May Allah help you through all your troubles. He is the bestbdisposer of all affairs. Ma'assalam
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Poll: Getting Married

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 19 2005, 09:03 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(D-ZiNeR @ Feb 19 2005, 05:54 PM) asalamu alaikum Umm, sister I did start that topic in the Counselling Forum. This one too! Assalamu Alaykum I'm lost. Are you the Sunni guy brother D-Ziner? Ma'assalam
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Problems In A Weak Family

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 19 2005, 08:56 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum Stay strong sister, May Allah help you through this. I suggest you checkout the cyber counselling section at www.islamonline.net, professional muslim counsellors will help you out insha Allah. All i can do for you for now is pray. May Allah out of his Mercy help you. He is the Best disposer of all affairs. I hope to get ideas of something that will help you and post it some time insha Allah. Ma'assalam
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When Friends Hurt Each Other

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 19 2005, 08:28 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum Lovely sisQamr- the way put a part of the khutba in your own words. Brother Danish, i think somewhere on this page it mentions that the khutba is from www.khotab.net and it was delivered by Sheihk Shuraim (Sudais' co partner), it even mentions the date i believe. Btw, I thought you would be from Denmark, but you live in the UK. Ma'assalam
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Poll: Where Is Egypt And Who Are Egyptians?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 19 2005, 08:20 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(ahm @ Feb 19 2005, 07:39 PM) I've heard black people say Cleopatra was black. But she was half Egyptian and half Greek. I also heard some Egyptian say "Egyptians were Egyptians before Arabs were Arabs". Assalamu alaykum Now i found that^^^ funny! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: Ma'assalam
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Istikhara And Its Wait...

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 19 2005, 07:52 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(Muslimah_uk @ Feb 18 2005, 08:12 PM) Ive never been open with my parents - its the way ive been brought up. They lack understanding and and have always failed to be able to communicate with my siblings and i on almost everything. I cant help feeling reluctant to tell them another reason being i know it'll just cause a big uproar and all the relatives and will make a big song and dance because in their eyes me finding a good brother would automatically mean its a 'love marriage' My parents will be like 'No way' and find any old Tom, ###### or Sikandar for me just so that i dont get married to him... If i was to ask them to find some1 like brother Ahm says, i mentoned before they would not look for the important qualities in a brother - those that matter like if he is practising. In their eyes aslong as hes related in some way and comes from a respectable family it doesnt matter if he is illiterate, non-practising and cant tell his hand from is... elbow. If the Istikhara was to come out positive then id have the necessary spirtual strength and motivation to stand up to them... Ahm bro, I love my parents dearly but i regret to ask do u not think they are sinning by restricting me from marrying any non-pakistani? isnt this pride and arrogance haraam? We should obey our parents on every occasion except when they are disobeying Allah... so does this not make them islamically wrong by discriminating against Allahs Creation? I have found a good brother, we both deeply regret getting to know each other so well but whats done is done we can only repent for it - have prayed Salat-ut Tawbah and continue the friendship on halal terms. I have stopped talking to the brother while my istikhara period and intend to only talk to him to finalise the outcome - to ensure the outcome is the same! Although i can feel the result being negative, if my instincts change and it was to come out positive i dont feel that i would be sinning if i marry him without my parents consent. Assalamu Alaykum Sister may Allah through his Wisdom and power enable to marry the partner of your choice. Ameen. Indeed Allah can bring help from angles one never perceives. I think i understand you very well, what your going through and how you feel. I understand the distance and lack of familiarity between you and your parents, your keenness to do things according to the deen , i understand how your parents can come up with anything to ensure you marry who they want, and... About the shyness of speaking to your parents about the matter, again i understand how there are barriers stopping you, but just realise it's either facing your parents and getting possibly, positive results, or no chance at all and you will stay in your current situation, and you will lose the battle b4 its over. So it's like jihad, struggle in Allah's cause, find ways of achieving your marriage plan which is for the sake of Allah. From your post, it doesn't seem like there's someone that could talk to your parents on your behalf, but incase there is, try it. O Allah, here is your slave who is trying her best to become closer to you by marriage and adhering to the deen. Ya Allah you know better than her and all of us her situation, her barriers and everything else. hasbunallahu wani'imal wakeel (you are the best disposer of all affairs) so Ya Allah grant her out of your mercy what she wants and what is good for her. Ameen I suggest you also ask professional muslim counsillors online what you should do. you can try this website; www.islamonline.net (the cyber counselling section) Please tell us how it goes. Ma'assalam
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I Think I Feel Lonely

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 19 2005, 07:39 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(seqina @ Feb 18 2005, 09:15 PM) salaam brother, im glad u say u feel better and stronger...... just want to add how i sometimes have similar problem- coz im living in non-muslim country, and ppl are unable to understand that i have chosen Islam for my way of life..... im afraid of being lonely a bit, although i know Allah is always with me, but sometimes we just need some human support..... thats why im socializing quite a lot, but it gives me very little pleasure. i mean, im not doing anything forbidden, but when im talking to my friends, its all nice- but i feel i want something more, a deeper friendship. how can i really enjoy being with people to whom i cannot express my feelings? they know im muslim, but i see how they dont understand, and i just cant bother them with that..... thats why sometimes im angry on myself a bit- i want myself to be more open muslim, to speak about Islam whenever i think about it. but then again, im not a type of person to force others to believe what i believe in......it wouldnt be very successful also...... so im trying to have a nice time with them, but then come here on IF and say whatever i want.........its great coz i understand most ppl here better then my friends often...... also i keep myself in dreams a bit- always imagining all that i dont have here. and, surprisingly, life is really great pleasure to me, more than to most ppl around me..... they are all much more depressed and things like that.......then i start understanding how privilleged i am in a way, as being a muslim :smile: now im all so happy, i guess coz of all those beautiful posts from bros and sisters.... this is a really nice place to talk to people..... :smile: Assalamu Alaykum Thanks sister for taking the time to give me some support. From your post, you seem to understand my situation, looking for just that deeper friendship and talking about things i want to talk about with the appropriate people. I also indulge in my little fantasy world atimes. Thanks and ma'assalam :biggrin:
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Best Food For Salah

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 19 2005, 02:33 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum I read somewhere that atimes, shaytan plays about with our minds to make us unconfortable about our wudu in prayer. If it happens regularly after you have done your wudu or are about to pray, and not at other times, then it is probably shaytan. You just ignore it, say a'uzubillah and pray. You can test one day, when you do your wudu and think you have released, go to the toilet, remove your pants and see if you can smell anything. If nothing smells, i think it's shaytan playin around with you. Hope this helps Ma'assalam
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Poll: Where Is Egypt And Who Are Egyptians?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 18 2005, 08:52 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(asian_gyal_4_lyf @ Feb 18 2005, 08:41 PM) ok sisnce i study geography at gcse level i have recently done a case stiudy...etc etc egyypt according to my map in my book is left of saudi...saudi is on the right..sudan underneath it..... Assalamu Alaykum ^^^and so.....??? what's ur point??? :laugh: Ma'assalam
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Football

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 18 2005, 08:05 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum, Paris, a juventus fan??? juventus are always under achieving. I've been to several football stadiums, i must say highbury was one of the least impressive, a tiny junkyard sought of place in the streets of london, what a pity!!! and then Arsenal are bearly able to build a new stadium at Ashton Grove or something like that. So Arsenal fans, stay in the kitchen and don't go to highbury, the kitchen is a better venue. Let's get some questions from you guy's. so far there aren't interesting matches to talk about, as Liverpool are having a rest and are leaving the small boys to struggle amongst themselves for the FA cup. Crystal eyes, i bet you were forced to become an arsenal fan. I can't see how someone can support Arsenal by freewill. And ManU...let me see... Ma'assalam
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Honour Killings

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 18 2005, 07:54 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(D-ZiNeR @ Feb 16 2005, 05:48 PM) asalamu alaikum There was a man around who got arrested! The B'd got some time, shame on him! He was a 'Contract Killer' who took girls away to Pakistan and killed them in this hounor killing business just because they refused marriage. I dont even know how parents could even think like this! I've also read this is a very strong African tradition. Not sure. Assalamu alaykum 'A very strong african tradition' - i haven't heard that and i dont think its true. Couple of years though, there was an african kid murdered in london i think, i think this was the Damilola case. It had nothing to do with honour killings as far as i know. it was to do with gangs i think. Honour killings, i wonder where people got it from. Is it when people take shari'ah into their own hands? Well even in shari'ah, as somebody has pointed out, there is no punishment on a muslim who refuses to marry a partner, they have the right to choose partners. infact, here the parents who force the children into marriges they don't want should be stopped from doing so by shari'ah. And then if a muslim chooses to have a boyfriend/gitlfriend, then even under shari'ah they are wipped, not killed!!! Ma'assalam
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Remembering What You Have Memorised

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 18 2005, 07:04 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(D-ZiNeR @ Feb 18 2005, 01:44 AM) asalamu alaikum lolz Ibn Khaldun, I'd knew you'd post something like that. The only tip coming from me is keep away from music. Music and memorising the Quraan aren't exactly best friends, trust me! May Allah make you a true hafiz brother. Insha Allah. Assalamu Alaykum, Good point bro. You know how people who listen to music 24/7 memorise the songs easily, Imagine if one could speak arabic, and listen to the quran as much as they listened to other music, We would have so many muhafiz!!! Ma'assalam
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When Friends Hurt Each Other

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 18 2005, 02:18 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, I agree with all y'all. Worth the read, every single bit. If i could make a suggestion; include the title of the article as part of the topic heading, so that people can see and hopefully read it. Nevertheless the 'Must Read' gets people to check it out. Ma'assalam :biggrin: (Btw Ahmed, the NYC hot dogs are halal, atleast the ones i had i think, as i always asked, they were beef sausages usually, and the hot dogs were sold by muslim vendors most of the time)
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Poll: Where Is Egypt And Who Are Egyptians?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 17 2005, 10:53 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum ^^^ True indeed brothe Mansoor. So how do we classify different tribes and culture, after they have adopted it for more than a 100 years, or what?
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Poll: Do You Ever..............

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 17 2005, 10:47 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(proudmuslimah @ Feb 17 2005, 09:49 PM) SUBHANALLAH! I think i better watch what i write. The book shope ey? I bet your on about the one inside the masjid! Assalamu Alaykum, Don't worry Proudmuslimah, you can still stay proud for i dont think it was you. The islamic bookshop i was talking about is not the one in Central Masjid at the corner. I go there though everytime i visit central Masjid, but i prefer other bookstores. They have a bigger variety, bigger space (yes the corner shop in Central Masjid is quite tight especially after jumu'ah) and cheaper. Anyway, insha Allah next time i'm in London, i'll throw off something for the brother's. i'll invite all the IF brother's for dinner or something like that. We could have halal chinese or whatever, or go to the Hyde speaker's corner and promote IF :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: , or anything guys want to do really. Probabably a few can get to come as not everyone lives in london, but its a more common ground i think. Ma'assalam
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Ambiguous Words On Clothing

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 17 2005, 10:25 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum Many of you probably know French Connection UK (FCUK). The company is obviously targeting an audience obsessed with the foul word. I use to have FCUK shirts and had no doubt in my mind there was nothing wrong with it, as it depends on intentions. But i started having doubts and stopped wearing it, as i might not have a bad intention, but it can have negative effects. What do you think? Also clothing with ambiguous words or writing like Fila, which looks like Lillah in Arabic. Are they haram? How about shirts with pictures, pictures of people, and how about football jerseys worn for fashion? Ma'assalam
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Remembering What You Have Memorised

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 17 2005, 09:56 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Allahu akbar, a brother trying to memorise quran. I also just recently memorised the 30th juz and extra and i think i know what your talking about with the ayats that are similar. Insha Allah you will become a hafiz and so to all other muslims who crave to become hafiz. There are somany abundant blessings for hafiz. And i heard on the day of judgement, each person's grade in paradise goes up according to the amount of surahs (and ayats) they memorised, and hafiz intercede for a certain number of people paradise. From my personal experience, do not overburden yourself at all, or else you might eventually quit, mlike i temporarily did (ya, temporary insha Allah). Realistically choose a certain number of ayahs you know you can memorise daily without difficulty. i.e. 5 ayats a day. To begin with, it might be annoying how slow you go and how much you think you cam memorise a day, but after sometime you will see why. The biggest challenge i think with memorising the quran is revision. It's easy to memorise, but to revise it so that it could be remembered forever is the tough bit. For me it's just too difficult to concentrate on school and memorising quran, especially with my hectic IB program. so i usually do my memorising in the holidays. I believe insha Allah, if i get time to do nothing but memorise, i can finish insha Allah within a year. People use different methods that suits them in revising. From my experience is, most of your allocated time for memorising is for revision, while only a little bit for new extra ayahs or surahs. During this revision time, revise your memory of about the length of 3 suratul Amma, starting from Nas, then the next day the same length continuing from were you stopped the previous day... until you finish all you memorised. Then you start again from Nas till where you memorised. During your revision time always practice the previously memorised or else it will be too hard when you get to it in your revision. Please PM me and tell me how it goes with you or if anything Here are tips i got somewhere on the net; Details of Fatwa Title of Fatwa Methods of Memorizing the Qur'an Date of Fatwa 1/ July/ 2002 Date of Reply 1/ July/ 2002 Topic Of Fatwa Qur'an Question of Fatwa Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. My question is: What is the best way to memorize the Qurأ¢â‚¬â„¢an? Can you also outline a schedule as to how to do it? After memorizing one Juz' does one need to revise the one memorized before moving forward? Jazakum Allah khayran. Name of Mufti Islam Online Fatwa Editing Desk Content of Reply Wa`alykum As-Salaamu Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatuh. In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger. Dear brother in Islam, thank you very much for your question which shows your great concern for the Book of Allah, the Glorious Qur'an. We implore Almighty Allah to help you accomplish the task of memorizing it and earning the great reward that lies in store for whoever memorizes and adheres to its teachings, Amen. First of all, weأ¢â‚¬â„¢d like to state that there is a great merit in memorizing the Qurأ¢â‚¬â„¢an and teaching it. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, says in this regard: "The best amongst you is the one who learns the Qur'an and teaches it." (Reported by Al-Bukhari). Also Abdullah bin `Amr ibn al-`As quotes Allah's Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him, as saying: "It will be said to the one who had memorized the Qur'an [and acted upon it]: 'Recite the Qur'an (ascending the levels of Paradise thereby) and do so slowly and melodiously just as you used to recite slowly and melodiously in the world since your abode will be at the place where you finish reciting your last verse." You see now that one earns tremendous reward in committing the Qur'an to heart, acting upon it and conveying its message to others. As regard your question, first of all, it's important to tell you that certain rules and methods should be applied in memorizing the Qurأ¢â‚¬â„¢an so as to get the expected fruits. Thus, we would like to present some of these rules which will assist you in memorizing the Qur'an, may Allah benefit all of us by them. In doing so, we will first shed some light on two perquisites for the act of memorizing the Qurأ¢â‚¬â„¢an and then elaborate on some practical steps to be followed. A- Two Perquisites for the Act of Memorizing the Qurأ¢â‚¬â„¢an: 1- Having Pure Intention: Whether in memorizing the Qur'an or doing anything for Allah, a most important obligation is to purify the intention and correct the goal. Thus, one's concern to memorize Qur'an and preserve it must be secured for Allah, the Sublime and Exalted, for gaining His Paradise and attaining His Pleasure, and for acquiring the great rewards that are reserved for those who recite the Qur'an and memorize it. Therefore, there is no reward for one who recites the Qur'an or memorizes it for people's sake: to show off and to be heard of. 2- Having a Truthful and Firm Resolution to Memorize it: A person should have such an intent when commencing the task of memorizing the Qur'an, in the midst of it and even after it when one needs to return to what one has memorized in order to preserve it in his memory. Without this firm resolution a person will treat the whole matter lightly, will become tired easily and will not even be able to achieve his goal. One of the ways a person develops a firm intent is to know the excellence of the Qur'an and to aspire after the reward mentioned above, and yearn drawing close to Allah through that act of worship. B- Practical Steps for Memorizing the Qur'an: 1- Correcting Pronunciation and Recitation: The first step in memorizing the Qur'an is to correct the pronunciation. This cannot be fulfilled unless one listens to a good and precise reciter or memorizer of the Qur'an. The Qur'an cannot be learned without a teacher. Allah's Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him, was the most eloquent of all the Arabs. Yet, he learnt the Qur'an from Angel Jibreel (Gabriel) orally. Also the Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him, used to recite the Qur'an to Jibreel once in every year - in Ramadan. And in the year that he died, he recited it to him twice. Likewise, Allah's Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him, taught the Qur'an to his Companions orally; and he heard it from them, after they had learned it from him, time and again. Therefore, one is required to learn the Qur'an from a good reciter, to correct one's recitation on a first basis. Also, one should not rely solely on oneself in learning the recitation of the Qur'an, even if one is knowledgeable of the Arabic language and its principles. This is so because in the Qur'an there are many verses that occur in a way uncommon in the rules of the Arabic language. 2- Adhering to a daily Limit for Memorizing the Qur'an: One must set a daily limit for some verses of Surahs (Chapters) of the Qur'an that one wishes to memorize. This limit should be reasonable and possible to fulfill. It varies in its amount from one person to another. One should resist the temptation to move to a new portion of the Qur'an before perfecting the memorization of the current portion that agrees with the set limit. This is a disciplinary measure that helps one concentrate on one thing at a time, reducing interruption, and enabling one to firmly establish one's current portion in one's mind. 3- Continual Recitation and Revision: Once one has corrected one's recitation and set one's daily limit, one should begin his memorization process by continual recitation and repetition of one's daily portion. The memorizer must occupy himself with this through the hours of the day and night. He should recite it: -in the Fard (obligatory) as well the Nafl (optional) prayers, -while sitting in the Masjid (mosque) awaiting the Jama'ah (congregational) prayer, -for a few minutes after the Jama'ah prayer, -before going to sleep, -while waiting for anything (bus, dentist, etc.), -while riding a bus, car, etc. In this way, it is possible for a person to practice his memorization even when occupied with other matters, because one is not restricted to just one specific time for memorizing the Qur'an. And with approach of night one will find that one's set limit is memorized and firmly established in one's mind. And if something unusual happens to occupy the memorizer during the day, preventing him from completing the set limit, one should not move onto the next portion of the Qur'an on the following day. Rather, one should continue with what one had started the day before, until the memorization is perfected. 4- Reciting in a Melodic Tone: During memorization, one should recite the Qur'an in a melodic tone, beautifying the reading as much as possible. It is important the one reads melodically because of the following reasons: a) Melodic recitation conforms with the Sunnah of the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, who used to recite the Qur'an in a melodious and tranquil manner. It conforms with the Prophet's command when he said, "Whoever does not chant the Qur'an (recite it melodiously) is not of us." c) It is pleasing to one's ears, providing incentive to continue with the memorization. d) It helps make one's memorization firm and strong. The tongue will always return to a specific tone of voice, and would thus detect a mistake whenever the balance or harmony in one's recitation becomes disordered. The reciter's tongue will not comply with him in making a mistake when he is unmindful. 5- Using the Same Copy of the Qur'an (Mushaf): A memorizer of Qur'an should have a specific Mushaf (copy of the Qur'an) from which he reads all the time. A person memorizes using vision as he does using hearing. The script and form of the verses, and their places in the Mushaf leave an imprint in the mind when they are recited and looked at frequently. 6- Understanding Is the Way to Memorizing the Qur'an: An important thing that greatly aids the process of memorizing the Qur'an is to understand the meaning of the verses one is memorizing, and know how they are linked to each other. Thus the memorizer should read the Tafsir (explanation) of the verses that he desires to memorize, and should bring their meanings to mind while he is reciting them. This makes it easy easier for him to remember them. Knowing the meaning of the verses is extremely important for memorizing the Qur'an, and to increase the rewards of reciting the Qur'an. However, one should not merely rely on this for memorization. Rather, as explained earlier, the repetition of these verses should be the foundation. He should repeat them many times, until the tongue can recite them easily - even if the mind drifts away from the meaning. As for the one who relies upon the meaning alone, he will forget often, and his recitation will be disrupted as soon as his mind wanders, which is a common occurrence with lengthy readings. 7- Linking the Verses: As one completes memorizing a full Surah, one should perfect it by connecting its verses together, both in meaning and in the flow of his tongue easily through them. One should be able to recite the verses without having to think or go through trouble remembering them. Reciting these verses should become as easy for him as the flow of water. He should be able to recite them without hesitation, even if his mind wanders away from their meaning. When the verses are well linked and perfected, one should be able recite them almost as easily as one recites Surat al-Fatihah. This only occurs through repeating these verses frequently and reciting them often. Thus, a memorizer should firmly establish a Surah that he is memorizing in his mind, with its verses well linked together. He should not move to another Surah until he has fulfilled this in a very good way. 8- Reciting to Others: A memorizer should not rely on memorizing individually. Rather, he should test his memorization by reciting the verses to a companion who knows them by heart, or who can follow from the Mushaf. It would be most recommended that this companion be a precise memorizer himself - he would then be able to alert him to possible subtle errors, as well as prompting him when he forgets or makes mistakes. It is very common for one to make mistakes in memorizing a Surah, without realizing it - even when one looks at the Mushaf. Reading often races the eyesight; and one may overlook one's mistakes while reading from the Mushaf. Reciting the Qur'an to a knowing companion is a means of avoiding these errors and keeping one's mind constantly alert. 9- Constant Review of What Has Been Memorized: Qur'an is different from any other material that one memorizes, whether poetry or prose. It quickly evaporates from one's mind. Allah's Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him, said: "By Him in whose Hand is my soul, it (the Qur'an) is more likely to escape than tied camels." No sooner would a memorizer leave what he finished memorizing, even for a short while, than it starts slipping away from him - he quickly forgets it! Thus, it is necessary for one to follow up to what one has memorized in a constant and careful manner. In this regard, the Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him, said: "Verily, the example of a possessor (in memory) of the Qur'an is like a possessor of tied camels. If he watches over them carefully, he would keep them; if he lets them break loose, they would run away from him." This means that a Hafiz (memoriser) of the Qur'an should have an allocated portion that he constantly reads every day. This portion should not be less than one thirtieth, and should not exceed ten parts (of thirty) of the whole Qur'an, because Allah's Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him, said: "It would be difficult for anyone who recites the (full) Qur'an in less then three nights to comprehend it." Only with this constant revision, and consistent watch, one would retain what one has memorized of the Qur'an and protect it from slipping away. 10- Watching for Analogous Sections of the Qur'an: Various parts of the Qur'an resemble each other in meaning, wording, or repetition of verses. The Qur'an consists of more than six thousand verses. Of those approximately two thousand carry some sort of resemblance to others. The resemblance varies from total coincidence, to a difference in one letter, a word or two, or more. Thus a good reciter of the Qur'an should direct special attention to the verses that resemble each other in wording. The excellence of one's memorization depends on this watchfulness in this regard. Excerpted, with modifications, from www2.essex.ac.uk/users/rafiam Dear brother, we hope all the above-mentioned facts and methods will help you accomplish the task of memorizing the Glorious Qur'an. May Allah Almighty help all of us stick to its teachings, Amen Allah Almighty knows best.
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Poll: Where Is Egypt And Who Are Egyptians?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 17 2005, 09:32 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum By the way, i asked Dot permission to call him Doc. I thought Egyptians learnt arabic after the advent of Islam in the 6th-7th century. Before that they were speaking some other language. So are they really Arabs? Ma'assalam
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Poll: Where Is Egypt And Who Are Egyptians?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 17 2005, 07:50 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Some Egyptians say that Egyptians are Arabs and Egypt is in the MiddleEast, or even part of Greater Asia. Some say Egyptians are Africans and learnt arabic only after Islam spread in North Africa, as at the time of the Pharaoh and Musa, Egyptians spoke Hebrew? So is Doc African or Arab?
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Poll: Do You Ever..............

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 17 2005, 12:00 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, I usually go to Central Masjid London in Regents Park and i think it is possible i have seen an IF member. Also maybe i have met an IF member in an islamic bookstore. There is one particular member that i think i met in a bookstore because of their catch phrases, 'Masha Allah' , 'Insha Allah' and so on. (i wont mention the bookshop incase its that person) Anyway we might all just be wishful thinking, the chances are high that IF member's haven't seen each other, of course unless it has been prearranged. Maybe if we all had our real pics in our icons, we could spot each other in the masjid. Everyone seems reluctunt to do that so...splash! Ma'assalam
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Poll: How Many Hours Of Sleep Do

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 16 2005, 11:35 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Never heard the 4-6 hours hadith. Interesting, i would like to know the source. 4-6 hours for the prophet is not bad considring his night prayers which get his feet swollen and he eats very little. Yup, the more one eats, the more they need to sleep. 8 hours is too much? possibly, for i haven't read that Islam encourages sleepin a lot. I heard a companion of the prophet (s) didn't sleep for 20 years at night, as the prophet (s) once said his a good man but doesn't pray tahajjud. That's the best generation. Look at what they can do for the deen! Ma'assalam
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Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 16 2005, 11:30 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(muslim mujahid @ Feb 16 2005, 10:30 PM) aslaam alykum, yeah why not marry a divorcee, only if she is same age as me when i want to get married, which i doubt as i want to get married quite 'young' sooooooooo wa alykum aslaam Assalamu Alaykum brother, I like your outlook of things. We seem to have similar views. May Allah guide you. Ameen Ma'assalam
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Football

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 16 2005, 11:21 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Arsenal!!! Yuk!!! But why!!! I know this question is biased, but how can someone get to like Arsenal? I tried to, but no way. Unfortunately i didn't see the Tsunami support game due to schoolwork. But i saw the highlights, Arsenal-Crystal palace. Arsenal played well (bullying amd taking advantage like they like to with smaller teams- i know biased comment!) How did you enjoin Arsenal - Liverpool game this season :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: No hope for arsenal this season anywhere. So you better go to sleep :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: Let's see how well the Gunners do against West ham. The Gunners have no gun powder left!!! Ma'assalam
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Depressed

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 16 2005, 10:50 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum The man who wants to cut his wife's hair, the man who aspires jihad, and the man who recently had problems with injections ( i hope your still not feeling sore from the injection) I hope your not depressed anymore. May Allah be with you Ma'assalam
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Poll: Getting Married

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 16 2005, 10:25 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(Grace_of_Allah @ Feb 13 2005, 07:39 PM) i m already 19 but i wouldn't want to get married to someone who is 19-20 :smile: because as sis sunshinez said men get matured quite late, ehm....and at that age they won't be able to support a family either. women can get married at early age as they are supposed to stay at home, i say are supposed to...not must! men having a job, home and being able to support a family at a young age..... well then i don't know which world would that be Assalamu Alaykum I dont agree that men get matured later than 19-20. Physicaal matureness, i dont think so. Matureness in terms of responsibility, may be,and this responsibility of course will be different from one to another. I'm a man, i think i should know better. About finance, i dont think 19-20 is too young as well. Of course if the man was getting married, he could find a way of getting the finance. Usually since parents financially support their children, they could equally help out in early marriage. I think i've about marriages where the couples get married while they are both in university. Ma'assalam
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I Think I Feel Lonely

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 16 2005, 10:13 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum to you all, Again, thanks a lot to all you contributed. I have benefited alot from you in this forum. I'm fine and okay. I think now, thanks to Allah, with is help, guidance and support, everything is in control. Ma'assalam
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Istikhara And Its Wait...

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 16 2005, 10:05 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum sister, Your approach towards your marriage isn't that bad as far as i know from what i understand in your post. It's sad that we don't always to get partners of our choice, especially for unislamic reasons like ethnicity. So i don't think you should throw the towel yet. Try talking to your parents about it if you think it could be succesful, or get an imam nearby, uncle, auntie, grand parents, parent's friend... anyone that you think could talk to your parents and present a good case that, what is important in marriage is religion, character... and that both partners love and trust each other and want to get married. But then from now on, if you are in contact with the guy, you stop until you receive a positive response, in which case you islamically start the engaging procedures i.e. the whole walee's from each side meeting the other... For the istikharah, i hope you understood how to use it. So do it, then reason out a choice of yours for you will be guided in your choice, it doesn't have to be a vision from a dream, dreams could be from shaytan and might deceive you. So reason out yourself your choice which is best after istikharah. I hope i can be of further help Ma'assalam
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My Hopes And Dreams Are All Gone... I Feel Sad

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 16 2005, 09:48 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, May Allah help you in your cause for Islam. As people have already told you, your destiny cannot be changed. A hadith of the prophet in which he advised Ibn Abbas when Ibn Abbas was young said' know that even if the whole world should gather in order to harm you, they cannot harm you lest Allah has decreed so, and if the whole world gather to benefit you with something, they cannot do so unless and only if Allah will' So, if Allah has decreed you will become a pilot, then you will become a pilot through ways you did not even imagine, and if Allah wills you will not be a pilot, even if all the guys in IF pray for you and the whole world too, you will not become a pilot. Just know that as long as you turn to Allah and pray to him, he will decree what is best for you. He Allah is the best disposer of all affairs( say the last sentence with conviction, in arabic it is Hasbunallahu wa ni'imal wakeel). As some people have advised you, its not yet over. You can try finding out more about how you could become a fighter pilot, going out of Canada, improving your eyesight, praying to Allah.... It is indeed beneficial, it is like a horse was in the time of the prophet (s), useful in battle and it was one of the things he encouraged people to learn. May Allah choose what is best for you. Ameen Ma'assalam
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Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 16 2005, 01:58 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Thanks sister MM CA for correcting me, 2 of Khadija's husbands passed away. I need to revise my seerah of the propher (s) insha Allah. Anyway my point still stands, Khadija had 3 husbands b4 she married the prophet (s), but the marriage was a match made in heaven, a perfect match. She had good qualities, the prophet (s) had good qualities. they liked each other, and that's what matters the most. I know a widow isn't the same as a divorcee, but in this context, they are a bit similar as people are having ideas of being used. To me the using idea should not be given importance, as i have been saying, Khadija was used 3 times b4 the prophet (s), yet the marriage worked out. (I don't like the using idea, its degrading, but i just used it to make my point if that could make my point be understood) Ma'assalam
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Why Is It Hard...?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 16 2005, 12:42 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, May Allah help you through your tribulations. I think its good that you realise and feel bad about doing things for the sake of your parents contrary to islamic rules. In many verses of the quran, When Allah says 'Be grateful to me, and to your parents' . The worst sin in Islam is shirk, then disobedience to parents according to a hadith of the prophet (s). So as Albani put it to you, do not obey your parents when it comes to sound islamic rules, i.e. Salat, Ramadan, Iman (there are some parents that demand out of obedience that their children should not believe in Allah and his messenger (s) )... So its a hard battle, just try as much as you can. dont feel down. Ma'assalam
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Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 16 2005, 07:40 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum How could we forget. I knew i forgot an example from sunnah. The prophet's (s) first and best wife, khadijah was divorced not once, but none pther than 3 times! She was 15 years older than him too!!! An ideal marriage it turned out. So when its time for, ii'll just look for good qualities in a spouse, not letting history play a big part. Ma'assalam :biggrin:
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Dealing With Female Colleagues

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 15 2005, 09:04 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum I think the sunnah way of the prophet (s) is the best way out of this. He would greet women first, but lowers his gaze while doing so, in that way, he is not inviting them for a chit chat and he gives the salam. I think not to talk to the opposite sex at all is not the way forward at al. The prophet (s) did not do that. For me reserve the big talk rule. The prophet (s); 'Whoever believes in Allah and the Last day should speak good or keep silent' So as long as what ur saying, whether muslim or non-muslim is beneficial, then fine. If no one agrees with me, they shouldn't be in this forum then, they should hang out in their own private gender rooms. But why do we all come to the General room, bcos we can all benefit each other in some way. Ma'assalam
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Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 15 2005, 08:37 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, I heard the prophet (S) advised people to marry virgins so that the 2 partners could play together. Apparently connection btwn partners that aren't first mates is not optimal. Anyway that's an advice, its the better thing to do, but for me that doesn't rule out a divorcee. It's not always the choice of a couple to have a divorce, and many times they try thier best to work it out. So i accept that anyone can end up divorcing and if i like the person, the person's religion is good, and so on, i think i wouldn't mind the marriage. A divorcee could be a better person than a virgin. Ma'assalam
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Football

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 15 2005, 07:49 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum Was my question that easy? You got it sister, Mourinho was assistant coach in Barcelona, when Barca sent Chelsea out of the Champions League, i think that was 2000. so you have the next question, unless if someone gets here first and asks b4 you so that the game can continue. Dont mind POA, Liverpool is much more interesting to watch and support. A win means more to us than a win for ManU means to POA. And a loss!!! I bet POA can't bear that. But we, we stay there and hang on. How about you Crytal Eyes, who do you support, Please not Arsenal!!! Ma'assalam
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Is University Filled With Fitna?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 14 2005, 09:12 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, ^^^De Montford, i know some guys going there. Anyway, Do you have some advice for us going to Uni's? Ma'assalam
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Football

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 14 2005, 08:35 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum sister, Right, b4 i forget like i did the last time, first question; Who ended Arsenal's record unbeaten run? Na that's to easy. Which Spanish club was Mourinho part of, some time ago? (Those it have to be ManU related questions? I hope not, bcos I tried to think of some ManU history, a bit boaring [lol] ) I agree Liverpool rely on Gerard, but not Carragher!!! I remember Henry suaving him, he lost balance, blocked other Liverpool defender's who tried to stop Henry, and then Henry went on to score, a goal which was candidate for goal of the season 2003-2004. So can you imagine, poor me had to see that goal several times!!! (If you know the game, then you should know about what i'm talking about here) Chelsea ! Chelsea ! Chelsea ! They're going, Hey ManU, catch us if you can! [lol lol lol], don't tell me you have hope of many coming back on top, you should be kidding if so. You know i almost got to watch Chelsea Vs. ManU at the beginning of the season at Stamford Bridge. Unfortunately, i was due to go the Emirates (DUbai), with Fly Emirates. How ironic!!! Anyway, let see how it goes insha Allah. Ma'assalam
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Problems Of A New Convert

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 13 2005, 07:08 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Welcome to Islam and IF. I see you haven't posted for some time, i hope its that u've been to the Zaghreb muslim center and found mulimahs(muslim women) to help you :laugh: . May Allah guide you, help you, make you strong in your situation and grant you Paradise. Ameen. Basically you seem to be OK in acquiring knowledge, like most of the stuff you know i think was b4 you came to IF. And as you keep on learning, insha Allah you will know what to do at all times, for Islam is a complete religion and shows what muslims should throughout their lives at all times. I think what you will need is support as you feel lonely. This insha Allah you will get from good muslimahs in Croatia where you are. If you do not find the support you need, you can always come to IF, and insha Allah you will get good muslimahs as friends who will support you. You could also involve yourself in some discussion here in IF which will make you feel less lonely. Hope i can be of any help. insha Allah if you need help and don't get it from any muslimah you can contact me, i will try my best to respond and help. Just know that muslims care for each other and take comfort that muslims care for you. Ma'assalam
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Poll: How Many Hours Of Sleep Do

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 13 2005, 04:44 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum, ^^^Ah hah. May be i got it. You sleep little because may be your there thinking... when will Ruud boy be back, will Rooney score today, will ManU fall in the hands of Blazer!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: Ma'assalam :biggrin:
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Football

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 13 2005, 04:38 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, ^^^Man ur a ManU for life! ManU die hard. You do know a lot about football. I challenge you in football knowledge. Or instead, let's have a football knowledge challenge for all. So we ask a question, then if the answerer gets it right, they ask the next question (a bit like the arabic game). Before i start, Liverpool is my chosen club. I'm disappointed though with their performance. Lost to who? Brimingham. Inconsistency. But your wrong, Owen ain't coming back. Morientes is in, and Owen might go to arsenal next season in a swap for Reyes. It's a bit boaring supporting ManU. They win too much. Not now though, so now i dont hate them like i use to. I hate Arsenal, not because they're good or anything, but because their supports brag, and brag and brag. I enjoyed the their 4-2 defeat against ManU. I want Chelsea to win the league though, i admire Mourinho. Liverpool use to get an edge over ManU, but not recently. Anyway, i came to this topic hoping to discuss about football and Islam. I'll give myself some time to talk about football b4 doing that. Ma'assalam. (Chelsea are Getaway Leaders :tongue: :tongue: :tongue: )
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Is University Filled With Fitna?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 13 2005, 04:15 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Well i'm doing IB (Pre Uni) and will be going to Uni insha Allah in London or California this fall. From my perspective, Universities usually have Islamic club sort of stuff, with good muslims i suppose like guys in IF. So it could be very good, to be studying together with dedicated muslims. University has few limits, so the Muslim club could really do a lot of cool stuff together, working hard, doing da'wah, organising islamic events. But ofcourse there is opportunity for fitnah. As someone said (can't remember who), what else can we do? If one can get married and go to uni, great. If one can go to unisex Uni's great, like in Saudi arabia, Egypt, Malaysia, etc. The fitnah in Unis is found almost everywhere too, In secondary schools and the like. Uni doesn't seem much of a different challenge to me. Infact i even crave to go to Uni, to hopefully meet good muslims. And with Uni your free to go round town, to muslim groups, masjids and the like. Ma'assalam
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Poll: Getting Married

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 13 2005, 04:01 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, I voted yes, but that's just because i would like to, but there are so many obstacles. The biggest obstacle i think is the Kafir imposed school system. these guys are just controlling us around anyhow. We ought to have our own systems that will make our ummah do things according to quran and sunnah. Not only marriage, wearing hats in school for boys or hijab for girls, holiday in ramadan for optimum ibadah...... and so on. These days, one can hardly get anywhere without having a degree or job, even if parents are well off. Convention!!! Ma'assalam
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Poll: Would you beat your wife?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 13 2005, 02:53 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum, Beating to me serves more as a role play as i heard a scholar say, rather than hurting someone. The effect to the person beaten being, i have been beating, i must have did something really wrong, or the person who beat me must be really angry, rather than this hurts. If it hurts, eventually the beaten will come to face it and the beating will have no more effect, so the beating becomes harsher, the beaten gets used to it, it becomes harsher again, the beaten gets used to it again....and on and on and on..... The guys beaten from my experience turn out to be rough and the worse amongst people. They even have a philosophy, 'Oh its just pain which will go, so i don't care, i'll misbahave as much as i want!' The light role play beating i believe is between parents and infants and young children, not husband and wife or parents and matured kids. The fatwa in the beginning that sis Qasab added answers the question fully. Insha Allah we men will never beat our wives so that we will be among the best. Our sisters are so precious, instead of thinking about beating them, let's think about how to deal with those who rape them. they are our mothers, sisters and daughters. Ma'assalam
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Pios Poeples

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 13 2005, 02:38 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, checkout the biography section in the Forum, i cant remember the name. Search on google. Let me try do that for you... I found this without searching hard; http://www.geocities.com/minutesage1/stories.html So search titles on google like; Stories of Pious muslims Biographies of Pious muslims Type the name of the pious person if you know it. Hope this helps Ma'assalam :biggrin:
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Poll: How Many Hours Of Sleep Do

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 13 2005, 02:24 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(proudmuslimah @ Feb 13 2005, 12:24 PM) Asalaamu Alaykum! Too much sleep gives me headache and i get even more tired! 6-7 hours and weekends DON'T ASK! Have u ever tired sleeping less...you become so Energetic subhanallah! Im gonna try that often! Assalamu Alaykum That's strange!!! you sleep less feel more energetic, maybe you take a lot of tea or coffee. Try to get 8 if your not above... maybe 30? 40? 50? Hey actually at which age is it ok not to sleep at all, or just a little? Ma'assalam
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Sallam I Am Back Too

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 13 2005, 12:31 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Welcome back! i'm new here but i look forward to meeting you Ma'assalam :biggrin:
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Poll: How Many Hours Of Sleep Do

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 13 2005, 12:22 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Sleep, sleep , sleep. I fill a bit sleepy typing this, just reading about it. So i might be owing huge sleep debts. During some holidays i use to sleep for about 10-12 hours trying to imitate deep sleepers, i just loved the idea of someone being a heavy, deep sleeper, plus i believed in the the more sleep, the taller one gets :laugh: Anyway, now even in holidays i sleep for about 8 hours. Sometimes i struggle to keep on sleeping. Then recently, i tried my best to adopt the sunnah way of sleeping, that is sleeping after isha, waking up after fajr and not going back to bed. Then a nap btwn zuhr and asr. But that was just during the day. I cant do that in school, (imagine dosing off after launch in a math lesson just bcos its the sunnah nap time). Im sure there must be wisdom in the sunnah way of sleeping which is good for the health, physically and mentally. Sometimes i sleep long and feel very drowsy when awake, while sometimes i sleep little and feel alright. It could be due to coincidently sleeping little but waking up just after a cycle (after REM), or sometimes i go, time is relative, Allah you are Ad-Dahr (The time) so please give me sufficient rest with the relatively short time i have to sleep. I have a lot to say about sleep, but let me not bore you into sleep. So , Ma'assalam :biggrin:
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Inna Lilah Wa Inna Ilaihi Raji'oon [asma]

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 13 2005, 11:56 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Innalillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un. May her soul rest in peace. I read that on the day of judgement, a man was to enter hell fire, then his daughter/son who died at infancy interceded for him. So may Allah give comfort to the grieved family and may their precious daughter intercede pardise for them. Ameen. Medina your idea sounds great. I see nothing wrong with that. Share the surahs around for us when you ready. It doesn't have to be the whole quran. One surah will surely be better than none. Ma'assalam
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Poll: Uk Or Usa

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 13 2005, 11:40 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, I'm from Nigeria but i live in Togo, somewhere in west Africa. If i were to choose btwn the UK and USA, it would have to be the UK; have a family house in london and i'm there very often. (better keep my mouth shut for i might soon be going to University in California ) Ma'assalam :biggrin:
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Where Are Are The Young Guys?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 12 2005, 01:55 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum :biggrin: Masha Allah. I was really happy with all your responses, especially considering the day i had yesterday in IF. The 12 year old boy, that was great! So hopefully now i'm gonna be a lot more comfortable in da house. Jihaad, please give me the link to the forum. Anyway guys, hope to meet each one of you in some forum so that we can share our useful knowledge! :biggrin: Ma'assalam
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It's Over! I'm A Member

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 11 2005, 08:13 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum Just to inform y'all, there has been a big twist, shattering the celebrations. 2 insurpassable barriers so far. first, just after my previous post, i got rejected from posting , i think it was in the 'have a drink forum'. Then 2nd barrier was an allied blockade! i was asked to enter forum password in the 'brother's forum'. So i still have to wait for something, i dont know what. For now i'll just try and make use of forums i have access to. Ma'assalam :sad:
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Where Are Are The Young Guys?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 11 2005, 07:50 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum Oh really ^^^ masha Allah. We indeed have in IF priceless jewels, young and mature as who said it.... i cant remember (never mind). We might not know it sister, but your words to me in the counselling forum were really helpful. And Strider, i hope to stride your way! Thanks y'all. Ma'assalam
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It's Over! I'm A Member

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 11 2005, 07:37 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum. :biggrin: For most who dont know what's going on, i just want to share this happy moment with y'all. Yes, its my moment of becoming a full member. That's right, just after i click the post button and send this message, i'll be a full member. It was a little bit of a bumpy ride, getting to this stage, getting rejected out of almost all the forums. So now, insha Allah, i'm officially in the house!!! :biggrin: Oops, what will i celebrate with??? wait a second.... Oh yeah, a short du'a, All praise to Allah, may Allah bless all the members of this forum, especially Doc and the rest of his crew who run the site. I don't have the glass of juice shared out to newbies on the 'have a drink welcome forum', so i'm gonna go get a glass of water to celebreate... ... ... .... ... ... I'm back with a glass of water. I'll have that just when i click the post button. What else...Oh yeah, so if you want to join me in my celebrations, of course you can. I'll pray for you insha Allah (if i know of course) What else... I dont know So see all y'all around, feel free to MS me or anything like that. I hope to meet you. Ma'assalam :biggrin: :biggrin: :biggrin:
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Is It Wrong To Think Like This?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 11 2005, 07:18 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum brothers and sisters, If there's someone who experienced the power of fasting in curving away all desires, i guess its me Read my post in the counselling section if you want to know just a bit about it. (...just a bit...), you can't feel it or know it until you try it and believing that our prophet (S)'s advice is the best, easy, practical and rewarding, Oh plus of course, it works!!! Ma'assalam
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I Think I Feel Lonely

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 10 2005, 07:55 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum sister, ^^^Its thanks greatly to you that i've settled down in IF. u've been consistently there. And thanks to others too, D-Ziner who took time to chat with me, Afghan Hijabi's words were lovely, Batoota's was wonderful and all the rest! I love you all in the spirit of brotherhood and sisterhood in Islam Ma'assalam (2 more posts to full membership insha Allah- great :biggrin: )
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My Story...

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 10 2005, 07:29 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Rasheed Gonzales? That name seems familiar to me from www.islamonline.net , i bet you posted your story there too. I'll try reading the story again and see. Welcome bro :biggrin: and i hope i can be of any help, just contact me. Ma'assalam :biggrin:
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Cant concentrate in Salat

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 10 2005, 07:27 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum brother, Oh, i'm sorry for responding late. I had no indication when you replied. You can email me if you want quick response for anything, not only about concentration in Salah. Alhamdulillah, i must say if the last thing you siad in your post is the state of your salah then your doing well. Most muslims dont speak or understand arabic. Even i, i only slightly understand it and i will learn it insha Allah. So accept that your human and you cant have a 100% concentration in Salah. Read the short surahs you understand most of the time and leave the longer surahs for reading with a quran at other times. When you lose concentration. quickly say a'uzubillahi minash-shaytanir-rajeem. Trust me your not taht bad in concentration. Hope to hear from you again, Ma'assalam
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Hmm Marriage Proposals....confused

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 10 2005, 06:02 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Salam sister in Islam :biggrin: Stay cool like :cool: Insha Allah it will go as smooth as you wish. Ma'assalam :biggrin:
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Is It Wrong To Think Like This?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 10 2005, 05:59 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum brother, May Allah help you out of this. You received excellent advice from our sister, and if you can apply it to your best, that will be great! I want to help you but i prefer to do it online i.e. MSN if you have an account. My account is umarm21[at]hotmail.com , add me and insha Allah we will talk about it in great detail. If you dont have an account, email me or post it up here. Insha Allah you will be alright, just knock me door :biggrin: So don't worry. Stay cool :cool: Ma'assalam
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I Think I Feel Lonely

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 10 2005, 11:03 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(crystal_sword @ Feb 8 2005, 07:49 PM) Hang in, Victory comes only from Allah (SWT) :biggrin: Assalamu Alaykum, Thanks brother Crystal. :biggrin: Your dashing horse in broil and battle, and your encouraging words of wisdom gives us hope, all over IF. Let's hope we see the man in armour come down the horse and we hear more from you. Ma'assalam :biggrin:
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Where Are Are The Young Guys?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 10 2005, 09:26 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Thanks jihaad and slave . I was probably very excited yesterday. I'm having fun here in IF. i'll check out your forum Jihaad, insha Allah when i am able to post. I feel down when i want to post but can't, so hang on for me Jihaad :laugh: Ma'assalam
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Can You Help This Sister?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 10 2005, 09:18 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, We really can't directly do much. It's depressing. May Allah bring you out of this, you and your innocent children .Hasbunallahu wani'imal wakeel (Allah is the best disposer of all affairs) Try your best to seek out alternative solutions to the problem.. Talking to him hasn't worked out, so solutions such as considering financial support elsewhere if your independent. You have been strong through all this and it must be really hard without support of a friend or family. I think your husband needs to see a counsellor or psychiatrist. If he doesn't want to or it doesn't yield results, then be strong and leave your husband. But be dependant on somehow who is no good to you. Did you get professional counsellind advice online? If no, do so i.e. on www.islamonline.net or anywhere you know. I feel bad about the situation your in. Why are people treating people like that? May Allah protect us from all evil. Ameen Ma'assalam
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Where Are Are The Young Guys?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 9 2005, 04:36 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Oops!!! :ohmy: Salams sister, You know something funny that just took place? when i just sent my last post here, i just scrolled down only to see Dot's name on the same page :ohmy: So Dot probably read my last post and will likely read this one. So hello Dot. :biggrin: I'm a newbie, and will soon be a full member :smile: So please give me a welcome hand and i hope to meet you soon. Great job. I prefer to caqll you Doc if you don't mind Ma'assalam :biggrin:
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Imitating Disbelievers

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 9 2005, 04:25 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Salam Alright, alright, you got me. So watch out :laugh:
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Where Are Are The Young Guys?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 9 2005, 04:24 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Salams, alhamdulillah, you found it funny, You better keep finding everyone funny, or else i IF will be full of guys going I read somewhere in IF someone saying 'uncle dot' and then someone asking whether Dot is the person's niece? I bet that was you. Ya i know. Maybe you call him 'Mr. Dot, or Dr. Dot or Imam Dot(leader) or whatever. Anyway that's cool, the IF team working like a family with uncle Dot at the top of the food chain :laugh: I will have a lot of questions insha Allah, so take your time and bear my humour Thanks and Ma'assalam :biggrin:
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Where Are Are The Young Guys?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 9 2005, 02:42 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Thanks sis for the reply. You respnded to my question. Perhaps when i become a member everything will be alright :biggrin: and i will discuss my ideas better. You seem to be on the attacking side answering in a defencive kind of way, when i was just trying to be friendly, i didn't mean offence. I just made a suggestion. No worries though, i bet you must be in a hurry as some sought of senior member, going round trying to satisfy us all. Good work your doing. May Allah reward you and help you in it. Thanks again and ma'assalam. :biggrin:
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Server Problems?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 9 2005, 12:51 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Took ages to load this reply page. You know as this website has experienced against enemies of Islam, i won't be surprised if they are the ones playing funny games, slowing it down shutting it down. Ya, common hackers are capable of doing that i think. I know the aljazeerah website also use to get problems with the webpage shutting down and a whole load of other stuff. So maybe security from these kind of activities could be considered. Ma'assalam :cool:
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Imitating Disbelievers

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 9 2005, 12:39 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Thanks sis Arwa for the wonderful fatwa. And thanks too for passing round a glass of juice to all new bies!!! Ma'assalam
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Thoughts On Ads

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 9 2005, 11:02 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum I don't really know the bad side of putting Ads , may be you could tell us more about the bad side of it and why people might not like to have it. the ads seems like a good idea to me though. And the paying stuff is also a good idea. Maybe it will be better if we have ads and make it possible for nyone who wants to contribute to do so. Ma'assalam :laugh:
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Where Are Are The Young Guys?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 9 2005, 09:29 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Alhamdulillah people have been generally welcome by IF members. Nevertheless IF seems to be some kind of big boy / big girlforum. Where are the young, enthusiastic, exciting guys? Hello, hello? I can't see you!!! May be we need to attract young people in some way. Plus maybe there should be a Newbie section for new members to meet new members and hopefully make new friends, cos the older members already have established friendship and have not much time for new members. Oops, may be i put this suggestion in the wrong forum. Ma'assalam :biggrin:
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> How do you rate IF?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 9 2005, 09:16 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, IF is great. i was wondering, where on earth have i been, not realising there is such a place like IF. I believe i've never seen a creative Islamic Forum like IF. There are loads to do, so many places to dwell. Although, the webpage is not the best looking, if you know what i mean. It's a bit boaring, looks dull and simple. there are some islamic webpages that just look good and attract users, like www.islamonline.net , ofcourse i know looks is not what its all about, because IF has the best things to do i believe, again very creative of you guys. I'm still a junior member , so i can't wait to get the full benefits of being a full member :laugh: , get on the bro's room , and so on. I can hardly wait. About 20 more posts for me to go, insha Allah :biggrin: I fully support your restrctions, it's annoying yeah, but everyone is better off with them. I thought i was most likely going to get an error page when i clicked 'reply' due to the restrictions Hopefully you will hear a load more from me when i'm a full member :wink: Ma'assalam
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Hmm Marriage Proposals....confused

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 9 2005, 08:29 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(Farouk1986 @ Feb 8 2005, 09:37 PM) Assalamu alaykum sister in Islam, I have seen so many variety ways of spelling my name 'Farouk' but your spelling of mine name seems very weird 'Farouke' :biggrin: . I wonder where you got it from. Have a Happy nervy time! May Allah be with you. ma'assalam Assalamu Alaykum, May be i figured it out . The extra 'e' in Farouk[/B] came from the nerves. Right sister?
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Hmm Marriage Proposals....confused

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 8 2005, 09:37 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum sister in Islam, I have seen so many variety ways of spelling my name 'Farouk' but your spelling of mine name seems very weird 'Farouke' :biggrin: . I wonder where you got it from. Have a Happy nervy time! May Allah be with you. ma'assalam
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I Think I Feel Lonely

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 8 2005, 04:47 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	QUOTE(Batoota @ Feb 8 2005, 04:31 PM) brother, even though everyone has written what i had to say, and you added that clever last post, i thought i'd add these two ayaat.... You do have a friend always there! Never feel that you are alone....for Allah is the light of the heavens and the earth, He is the cure when there is an illness, He is the guide when all is lost, and He is the Merciful with His servants. Remember: Thy Guardian-Lord hath not forsaken thee, nor is He displeased. (93:3) When My servants ask thee concerning Me, I am indeed close (to them): I listen to the prayer of every suppliant when he calleth on Me: Let them also, with a will, Listen to My call, and believe in Me: That they may walk in the right way. (2:186) (This is Farouk) My God, you made me almost cry sister. Thanks for the lovely words. The first one was referring to our beloved prophet when he received his first revelation (Iqra...), then he didn't receive any divine revalation for 6 months some scholars say. Then surat duha was revealed, which included your first verse, Allah assuring our beloved prophet that he had not been forsaken... The waiting period b4 suratul duha made our beloved prophet (S) realise how much he needed the divine revalation, how life became miserable for him without it, for what did he have to live for? The second verse was wonderful. A lot of times something is out there but it justs needs be put on the spotlight. Again thanks sister, i really loved your words. Ma'assalam
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I Think I Feel Lonely

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 8 2005, 04:20 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, When i first submitted this post, i made a comment which i feel i have to take back. The prophet (S) said young people should get married and if they can't get married, they should fast. I said fasting hasn't helped me much. Astagafirillah, now i have to take my word back. To say the truth, i never understood how fasting could be a substitute before one gets married and i have to admit, i didn't actually believe fasting could be a substitute. Even though i fast, like on mondays and thursdays, i never did one based on the advice of the prophet (S). But then, Allah is great. Just yesterday, when i fasted, i believe i realised the wisdom behind the prophet 's(S) saying. I felt a certain devotion to Allah that made me focus on doing what i wanted to do. I felt a shield that prevented evil thoughts coming into my head. I felt closer to Allah. I think the lack of food is what promoted all this. The need for food in the body is greater than the need on anything else, including all other desires that Allah gave us. So without this food, one is more likely to think only about Allah and food for the whole day. I don't know how to explain better what i felt yesterday and what i realised. A lesson i learned from this is, how much we believe in something will determine how much it will help us. And because Allah is great, sometimes we do not really believe in something because we do not understand it, but out of his mercy, Allah sometimes helps us out. Ma'assalam
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Hmm Marriage Proposals....confused

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 7 2005, 11:06 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum sister in Islam, Congratulations on the succesful meeting between the 2 parties. May Allah facilitate the marriage to take place, formalities and all sorts of procedures to follow. Ameen. Take care and glee with joy. Ma'assalam.
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Im Just Very Upset...

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 7 2005, 08:44 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum sister, Sorry to hear of the situation your in. May Allah bring you out of it. Ya, i think u've already received good advice about how to make the best out of the situation and time, how to go about future interviews and so on. Insha Allah you will receive help from Allah from sources you cannot even imagine. That's Allah, is Great. Anyway have you though about getting married? I believe your matured(cos u've graduated). U know men get most of the jobs because they are financial providers, its their responsibility while wmomen tend to get fewer jobs. You have no responsibilty to financially take care of anyone, even your own children. At the moment ur father is financially responsible for you till you get married and your husband will take over that responsibility. It's not haram though to look for jobs if your a woman. So you could have a think about it, i'm pretty sure you and your family are considering marriage or have talked about it. May Allah give you what is best. Ameen Ma'assalam
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Can You Be My Friend?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 5 2005, 11:47 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum, Let me tell you a little about me. My name is Umar but you can call me Farouk. I just turned 18 (born in 1986, hence the 'Farouk1986'. I come from the Muslim Ummah and I permanently live in Nigeria but often come to London. I am in a boarding school with about 30 other muslims. I'm doing the IB (pre university) diploma. Insha Allah i will finish this year and i plan to head to Stanford University, California to study Engineering, or UC Berkeley or Caltech. Imperial College London gave me an offer so if i don't go to Cali, i plan to go to London. I sent a post in the counselling forum to get some help. Alhamdulillah i got some good responses from brothers and sisters. Anyway i get lonely sometimes because i have never found a true muslim friend. I'm active, i socialise with everybody around me, no conflicts, i laugh and joke but not excessively. I will describe myself as very ambitious and determined, especially in the deen. I strive to live my daily live according to the quran and sunnah to the best of my ability. I do almost everything, sports, TV, books... (of course trying not to cross the limits in the deen). I might sound boring, but if you want to know more about me, just give me shout. I have nothing more to say than, i look forward to meeting you. Thanks for reading And Ma'assalam
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Hmm Marriage Proposals....confused

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 3 2005, 08:48 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum, Sister in Islam, may your upcoming meeting and marriage be a success by the grace of Allah. I hope you still remain an active member in IF though. D-Ziner, brother you just cheer us all up! Ma'assalam
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How Important Is Mutual Attraction Before Marrying

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 3 2005, 08:39 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum This has been one of the most lively and entertaining discussion i've seen in IF. Weldone guys for the good points; sunshinez, Mansoor, sister in Islam, afghan hijabi... For the guest who initiated the discussion, may Allah give a good and pious wife, a happy long lasting marriage and satisfaction. You seem on track to me and with the contaacts your getting from scholars plus advice here in IF, insha Allah everything will be fine. Ameen Ma'assalam
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Hmm Marriage Proposals....confused

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 1 2005, 07:58 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum sister in Islam, Sorry i got mixed up with the info. I would probably never know enough to say something very valuable, but from what i can see, you seem in control but nervous. You have good islamic knowlegde to decide what to do but you seem ... i dont know, maybe excited or nervous that your asking us in IF what you should do. So dont worry, insha Allah you will be fine and have a good husband and marriage. Ma'assalam.
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I Think I Feel Lonely

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 1 2005, 07:43 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum brothers and sisters, this is my feedback from your responses Thank you very much for the help and support i got. I really appreciate it. Sometimes, a word of advice might seem nothing to the one who gives it, but it means a lot for the one who gets it. I think from your advice, thinking about the situation and reading around, i have benefited a lot from the situation. Thank you brother D-Ziner and Lateralus for inviting me to chat with them on MSN so that i don't feel very lonely. I couln't add your names by clicking on it because i'm just a junior member. Anyway my MSN address is umarm21[at]hotmail.com . Insha Allah if you add me or i add you guys when i get your address, and then have a chat with you guys. 'Sister in Islam' thank you for the comments. You suggested that i shouldn't talk about right and wrong all the time because it gets boring. I agree with you. But i would just like you to know that i joke, i laugh, i talk, i socialise with everybody around me without trying to get out of limits. But then as i'm sure you know, there's more to life than laughs, jokes, fun and so on. Sometimes one just wants to have more meaningful discussions with good muslims, get support and encouragement,especially when one stands out alone. Again i thank all of you for your help and support. It felt so good to have muslims giving me advice, supporting me. I really appreciate it. May Allah reward you for it. Ameen Ma'assalam
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Can You Help This Sister?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 1 2005, 10:53 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum I really like what Ameerana put forward. And sister sunshinez! How would IF be without people like you. I wonder. The problem has to be solved and you can't go on living like that! Maybe divorce might be the best solution if living with him will cause more harm to your physical and mental health, and that of the children for God sake, considering i'm pretty sure all devices to make this marriage work have been tried. So if he is not willing to make it work after several people have spoken to him, or he wants to change but keeps going back to his ways for several reasons (as is usually common with partners who mistreat their equal), hence harming the whole family psychologically, making the family lose thier self-confidence, hopes, making them become hard-liners and pessimistic, living in misery and so on. ma'assalam
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Hmm Marriage Proposals....confused

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Feb 1 2005, 10:10 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum sister, Sorry i didn't post this yesterday when you really wanted a reply. To busy with school and slow internet. The basic advice has already been given to you, which you've already carried out, istikharah, alhamdulillah for istikharah prayers. But then i guess you still probably want more advice. Most times we people would like advice, help and support eventhough we might know the expected advice, or have heard it atleast. So my advice to you, which i am pretty sure you've heard already is this. The prophet (S) said it is forbidden for a muslim brother to propose to a muslim sister that another muslim brother has already proposed to, unless he gets permission from the brother who proposed first to go ahead. In your case, it seems like person A proposed first then person B came in. I'm not sure whether person B got permission from person A to propose to you. If he didn't, then i think proposal of person B is invalid and you should not consider him unless person A allows him to propose. You have to deal with person A first and alone, and try and see if it could work out. If and only when it doesn't work out, then you can consider another proposal, of course after agreeing with person A that there is no prospect of marriage between both of you. If people follow the guidelines Islam lays out, then marriages will be nice and smooth, with no grudges beteen muslims, and no parties envying each other and making marriages competitions like winning girlfriends in western societies. Even if person A permits person B to propose to you, i think for the sake of making things easy, nice and simple, you could kindly tell person B you someone has proposed to you and he could only propose to you when it doesn't work out with person B. i am trying to condemn person B, he could even be a better person to Allah than person A, Allah knows best but take it one at a time. Another reminder to you is the hadith of the prophet (S), which he said a woman is married for 4 reasons. Her beauty, her wealth, her character and her reputation. Then the prophet (S) went on to say, marry the religious one. To me this means that the first criteria is to check the deen and character of the partner, for this is the basis of all marriages. Consider all other things like beauty, reputation, etc but do not give them to much importance and weigh them heavily. Some muslims make the mistake of looking for beauty first, then the deen and character. The beauty then covers their eyes so that they overlook the other more important things, an as we can see today everywhere, the results of these kind of marriages. I trust you to be good in choosing the right husband due to your knowlegde and experience in IF. Sister, i hope i have been of great help and may Allah give you a pious husband with other good things you would like from him. Ameen. May Allah guide you in your quest and choice, and make it easy and succesful to you. Ameen. Please tell us how it goes and knock on our doors if there is something we don't get, or you still want more support and advice Ma'assalam
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what should I do

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Jan 31 2005, 08:40 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum sister, You know, it is easy for people to blame your brother for what he has done and so on. But really the problem with Zinah of all sorts, minor or major stem from a root. Think about it, we live in a society were people see all sorts of nudity and rubbish on TV, on the streets, in magazines, and where not? Then we expect people to act like saints! We have to tackle the problem from the root. Your brother could be watching bad TV programs that influence him to do such things, where ideas that people should satisfy their sexual desires at all cost are promoted, there are even talk shows that host family members that have committed incense, like in one instance, i heard about sexual relations between a father and a daughter, and then these people come out on TV and say how they actually had fun. can you imagine! Your brother could be hanging around with bad friends, etc. So try and find out the root of the problem. Your brother did not develop a physical desire for you overnight. Then try and tackle this problem with your family, your parents. All avenues that lead him to do it such as TV, magazines, bad friends should be restricted for him and substitutes found for him, i.e. buy him islamic tapes to watch, find good friends for him, support him and help him, explain to him the gravity of the act he commited. And dont expect him to change overnight too, it should be gradual. Insha Allah he will be guided by Allah to the straight path. Ameen. Please tell us in IF how it goes. Ma'assalam
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Can You Help This Sister?

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Jan 31 2005, 07:56 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum sister, This is one of the worst stories i've heard. It's really a pity that such trials and afflictions are taking place. May Allah protect us from these kind of affliction and trials. Ameen I am almost speechless and don't really know what to say. Even though there are good muslim brothers and sisters that can give you advise, perhaps you need professional advise, i.e. you can get professional islamic counselling at www.islamonline.net It's easy for us advising you to say things like, pray hard, be strong, patient, talk to him, tell people to talk to him, etc when i am pretty sure you have tried out several ways of solving the problem. I think the best i can do for you is pray. May Allah the all-mighty, all-able, all-powerful and all-merciful solve this problem for, help you and guide you. Indeed Allah is the best disposer of all affairs. Allah can help in ways that one can never imagine. So don't give up, or else you would have already lost the battle when it is not yet over. Keep on trying in creative ways how to solve the problem. Please tell us in IF how it goes and thank you for the sister who forwarded this. May Allah reward you. Ma'assalam sister.
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Marital Problems

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Jan 31 2005, 01:24 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum sister, Just wanted to add. It is natural that you feel resentment towards your husband and his girlfriend for your miscarriage. You even want to kill his former girlfriend. I think you have to understand the gravity of your statement. Allah has decreed that killing one person is like killing the whole humankind, including yourself, your family and all those you love. killing is only permitted in jihad, retaliation by shari'ah for murder, etc. So let Allah deal with whoever trangresses beyond bounds. He is the best who retributor and just punisher, the best judge. I think you should repent and ask Allah for forgiveness, for even thinking and intending to kill a person unjustly. You should also understand that your miscarriage was decreed by Allah the all wise, for reasons He knows best. Maybe so that you become even closer to Him, and that he forgives you for your suffering, and love you and reward you if you respond to the situation without doing wrong, eventhough wrong had been done to you. Realise that no matter what was done, seeing the best doctors, etc the miscarriage was going to take place, and if Allah willed, no matter what the suffering, the baby would have been born, even if you have no intercourse. Take Maryam, mother of Isa (A), she did not even have intercourse but gave birth to none other than a prophet just because Allah willed so. May Allah bring you peace and comfort. Ameen Ma'assalam
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Marraige Problems.

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Jan 31 2005, 12:49 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum brother, It's sad that things like this happen in the mslim community. I hopr that you get to marry her if it is the best for both of you. Ameen. If Allah wills this marriage will take place, there is nothing and no one that can stop it happening, and if Allah wills it will not happen, there would be nothing that will make it happen, even if the whole world were to plead for you. So pray to Allah that he makes it happen. Invoke Allah a lot about it. As a scholar said, if you have a problem, invoke Allah like a small child or baby. Cry if you have to and keep invoking Allah till He yields results for you. Indeed Allah, he is ever watchful, ever present, knows exactly what you are going through, loves that you invoke him, He is ever generous, He is ever giving, forgiving and merciful and will do what you believe He can do for you. So take comfort with Allah. Usually parents dont like marriages between different ethnic groups for various reasons, i.e. they feel their tribe is superior, they think the marrige will not work out and don't want their children hurt in the process. So on a practical level, by careful wisdom and planning, involve friends, relatives, family members, local imams that could convince all parties that any marriage will work as long as the partners are religious and have good character. Dont make the situation worse by keeping contact with the girl. You will come to realise that keeping contact will not make the situation any better. This is the time and age when muslims from different ethnic groups are coming together and marriges between them are becoming more frequent. Understandably, parents who find it new are reluctunt about it. But we the next generation insha Allah will grow, we understand the situation better, and in the future insha Allah, this will no more be a problem in the muslim ummah. It wasn't a problem either among the earliset muslim generations. The 3 first muslim generations were the best generation as the prophet (S) said. Please tell us how it goes. Its nice to know what happens to the person who advice has been given to. It encourages the advisor to keep on helping people knowing their effort isnt wasted. Ma'assalam
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Marital Problems

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Jan 31 2005, 11:55 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum sister, May Allah be with you, reward you, help you and guide you. Ameen It is very sad to hear your situation and the ordeals you are going through. It's a pity that muslims go through these kind of situations. Your problem is very complex. I recommend you submit your counselling problrm to professional muslim counsillors at www.islamonline.net My advice to you is not to go through this alone. Talk to your family and trusted friends. Try your best to work with your husband, his family or relatives or friends and your family or friends or relative, and maybe a wise imam you know and trust. Try and work to make this marriage work. Even though there might be problems if this marriage continues, i believe there could be more problems if the marriage doesn't work, the whole divorce, finding another partner, financially taking care of yourself, the emotional drawbacks (because you do love him) and so on. As has been referred in the quran, if both parties honestly work to solve the problem, and want to solve the problem, then by Allah's leave everything will be fine. Do salatul istikharah on this and invoke Allah a lot about it. As a scholar said, if you have a problem, invoke Allah like a small child or baby. Cry if you have to and keep invoking Allah till He yields results for you. Indeed Allah, he is ever watchful, ever present, knows exactly what you are going through, loves that you invoke him, He is ever generous, forgiving and merciful and will do what you believe He can do for you. So take comfort with Allah. Please tell us how it goes. Its nice to know what happens to the person who advice has been given to. It encourages the advisor to keep on helping people knowing their effort isnt wasted. Ma'assalam
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i dont even know what to put as the title

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Jan 30 2005, 08:06 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum brother, You seem to me like your depressed and you even said 'screw life'. I think you need to a qualified counsellor/ psychiatrist /psychologist. You could also write your complains to www.islamonline.net , they have professional islamic counsellors willing to help. Talk to an imam in area. tell him your problems. Talk to any family member or friend you trust. Talk to your parents if you can. Tell them how you feel depressed and so on due to the 'burden'. If you cant talk to your parents, ask a wise family member, or relative or imam nearby to talk to your parents about the burden they are laying on your shoulders. Since you said you do not like studying, what do you like then? there must be something you do when your not studying, what is it? is it islamically good? Are you hanging around with a group of friends who do not like studying? Hang around with good muslims, and students who enjoy studying. Please tell us how it goes. Its nice to know what happens to the person who advice has been given to. It encourages the advisor to keep on helping people knowing their effort isnt wasted. Ma'assalam
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Daughter Of A Divorcee

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Jan 30 2005, 07:46 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum sister, It is really sad to hear about muslims going through such ordeals. May Allah help you, guide you, recompense you and be with you. Ameen The prophet (S) said The mother should be given 3 times more care and companionship than the father. Nevertheless the father should also be treated as a parent. So whatever you do, try not to hurt your mother, but i think try and involve some wise relatives, wise imams in your area, etc to talk to your mother about what best should be done. If you think you can, i think it will even be better that you express to your mother how you feel, what you want and so on, of course not in a way that will make her angry. You need to get married. The prophet (S) said marriage is half the deen and the other half is that you watch your tongue (what you say and eat). This will bring happiness to your life as well as for your mother and will not make you and your family lonely. Choosing a husband taht is religious and has a good character is the basis of all lasting and happy relations. All other things should not be given as much importance. Please tell us how it goes. Its nice to know what happens to the person who advice has been given to. It encourages the advisor to keep on helping people knowing their effort isnt wasted. Ma'assalam
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Sorry..but I Want 2 Get Married...

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Jan 30 2005, 07:30 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum sister, You are welcome to this forum full of good and caring muslims. You as i told someone, i realise that all good muslims are lonely at some point in thier lives. Why? well because most of the muslims around are just muslim by name and do not sincerely practice their religion. Hence the few good muslims are left lonely. I am lonely too sister, you know. I cannot find good muslim friends and i just have to try my best to find comfort by getting closer to Allah. Even the prophet (S) was lonely when Khadija and Abu Talib passed away. So loneliness is a trial from Allah that we have to try and endure without deviating from the straight path and sinning. Marriage has now become a big problem in the muslim community. The prophet (S) has said it, his words are ever true. He said if you find a prospective partner whose religion and character you are happy with, then get your schildren married or else we will have problems in the ummah. And as a scholar said, now people set up a demanding criteria for prospective partners making it more difficult to find a match because ideal partners dont really exist. For example one will say, my partner must be religious and have a good character (that's good), but then the list also includes things like, the partner must be good looking, a certain skin complexion, a certain tribe, speaks a certain language, lives in a certain country, has a certain job, must be 2 years older or younger...(people's list go on forever, i have even heard ridiculous ones like the partner must have a dimple on the cheek!) i dont advise you to use matrimonials. i think there are always bad people who present themselves as good people but aren't. Also its so unreal i think. Eventhough one might be shy, i think good ways of finding partners is to ask family and friends to find you one and inquire for good partners for you. Also people looking for partners frequently go to masjids so one could inquire about them or inquire throught the imam, or through somebody. That's what i have to say, if you still want to ask for specific advice or help, you are always welcome. There are good people that will help you in IF. Please also tell us in IF how it goes with you. It encourages people who give advice tom keep on putting in the effort knowing the results of their efforts, whether succesful or not. Ma'assalam
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I Need A Quick Answer Please Inshallah

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Jan 29 2005, 09:24 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum brother, I am new to IF and when i first came here, i thought i was the only lonely soul. But after, i realised that almost every good muslim gets lonely at some point. This i believe is because really there are many muslims but most are just muslims by name who do not practice the deen ernestly, leaving the few good muslims alone. So its a test we have to strive and go through for the sake of Allah. As for me, i hope to get over my loneliness when i go to university or college insha Allah very soon where there are usually islamic groups clubs with good muslims. I am not yet a full member, but insha Allah when i do become a full member in IF, then i will get good brother's contacts and chat with them on MSN. That i think can help a lot for anybody who is lonely. You know with marrige, again good muslims are struggling to find good partners due to the society we live in. A good way to find a good partner is i believe to go to masjids you trust, inquire for muslim sistrs who also want to get married. Also ask any good muslim friends and family members to help you find a good prospective partner. I dont advise you to use an online matrimonial, even if it is islamic eventhough there could be good prospective partners, it is hard to find them. I also wwant to get married bu i am having problems. I will love to discuss this topic with you on MSN, if you wish , you can send me an email. Ma'assalam. I will love to know how your doing.
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I'm Just Floating Along

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Jan 29 2005, 08:52 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum brother, Brother you are welcome and i think i can see how you might be feeling. You know, loneliness in religion is not only encounted by reverts and converts to Islam, but also by muslims who are trying their best to practice their deen, because honestly many muslims are just muslims by name and the ones who actually practice thier religion ernestly are a very few. Sad but true i believe. So brother, i can tell you your not alone, i myself (originally in a muslim country and schooling elsewhere with several muslims) have met hundreds of muslims but finding no good friend. I'm sure people have been telling you to talk to ur family, i also advise you to do the same. Reach to them, express how you love them and miss them, tell them how you find comfort with Islam, the true religion. Also realise that your going through a test and Allah will be with you if you remember him, stick to your deen no matter what. Insha Allah you will find comfort and may Allah help you and be with you. Ameen Ma'assalam Please tell us how it goes with you. You are always welcome.
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Cant concentrate in Salat

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Jan 29 2005, 03:52 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu alaykum brother, Is good you turn to websites like this for help. Muslims are always ever willing to help each other. I will give you the prophet's advise, take special time, care and deliberation to perform your ablusion as perfect as you can. the more perfect, the more concentration. Then try and memorise by heart, the meaning of surarul fatihah and follow it during the paryer. Then remember Allah is nearby you as you pray, and praying is worship and du'a, so keep in mind that all you do is for Allah who is ever observant of your prayer i.e. humility and submission when bowing, etc Ma'assalam Pls tell us how ur salat has improved after some time or if you need more help due to specific problem, knock on our doors!
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Salam Alikum~

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Jan 29 2005, 03:47 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Salam Alaykum sister, Nice to hear you want to learn about the deen. Perhaps you could ask specific things you want to know, or if you need any sort of counselling, post it on the counselling forum. May Allah help and guide you. Ma'assalam
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Im Such An Idiot!

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Jan 29 2005, 08:37 AM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Salam alaykum Brother, Brother you are ever welcome and you have a place in the muslim ummah. I am glad you seek to solve your problem by asking fellow muslims for advise. That is the best way forward for the best advise is that according to the quran and sunnah. i encourage you to get married because the prophet (S) said marriage is half the dee, the other half is to control your tongue. My advice to you is to tell her and do Al-istikhara prayer, prayer asking Allah for guidance for what to do. Imagine getting married and not being trusted by your wife and her family and friends? So eventhough telling her your real age might end the marriage plans, your better off. But most likely if she loves you and she is religious, and you show her you have repented, then your marriage should still go ahead. Our prophet married Khadija who was 15years older than he was and it was a perfect and ideal marriage, with 6 children. Insha Allah i will find more time to talk to you. Ma'assalam Brother Farouk. Please tell me how your doing, the outcome and any comments or remarks you have.
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I Think I Feel Lonely

Farouk1986 View Member Profile Add as Friend Send Message Find Member's Posts	Posted on: Jan 28 2005, 09:57 PM
Full Member Group: Members Posts: 310 Joined: 28-January 05 From: West Africa Member No.: 11,739	Assalamu Alaykum brothers and sisters, I have several dilemmas i want to get out of and this has made me lonely. As i intent to write a lot, i suggest for anyone who gets board of my long desperate talk to just read the bit they can and advise me even it is just a sentence. I will find it very beneficail and comforting to get help from muslim brothers and sisters. Firstly i will start with a bit of my background and then the dilemmas. I am a boarding student in a school with few muslims. For some years now, i hav been doing some da'wah, mainly enjoining good and forbiding evil, and jihadinnafs, trying to become closer to Allah. But i have been facing several problems. First of all, i have no friend. Not because i do not socialise, etc but because either people do not want to get too close to me as they go partying and stuff while i dont, or they are bad people who befriend me and influence me to do bad things. Hence i am in a situation where i do not have a friend, i have no one to speak too, no one to consult, no one to support me and i feel depressed and lonely. i do not know what to do. And then i think this loneliness leads me to other problems. As i get lonely, the natural sexual drive awakens and i struggle to control it, sometimes leading to minor sinful activities like not lowering the gaze. And this problem makes me want to get married to avoid getting aroused. The Prophet (S) advised young men to fast if they cant get married but it has not been helping me much and i seriously dont want to wait for years before i get married. But i am only 18, (just going to university, insha Allah in London or California). i have not started searching for prospective partners because It would be difficult for me to get married due to social norms of getting to the late 20's when one has a degree, a job, a house, etc before getting married, plus parents are relunctunt to give their daughters in marriage to an 18 year old and sisters are also not normally willing to marry an 18 year old. Anyway alhamdulillah my parents i know could help me financially should i get married, even though i think they are also not going to be in favour of early marriage. The last thing i want to talk about is my dilemma between liberalism and extremism. The Prpphet (S) said religion is easy and anyone who tries to overburden themselves will find it hard and will not be able to continue. So anytime i relax, i deviate sometimes and then when i strive hard, i get tired of what i am doing i.e. memorising the quran, etc. How should one put the balance right? Thank you for anyone whoo reaches this stage of reading my problem. May Allah reward you for reading and reward you more for helping. Ameen
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